The Psychological Wellbeing Test – How Okay Are You, Really?
by Andrea M. Darcy
Worried there must be something wrong with you as you are not ‘happy’ all the time? Or, conversely, always protesting you are happy and fine?
It is a common oversimplification that happiness and psychological wellbeing are the same thing. Happiness can be part of wellbeing, yes. But you can actually be happy in moments but have poor wellbeing, for example.
What is psychological wellbeing?
Mental wellbeing is less about always feeling great, and more about being at ease with yourself and the world around you, and feeling you can cope with whatever comes your way. So it’s about your capacity to function and stay balanced.
Better adjectives to attach to wellbeing are things like:
- resilient
- confident
- self-aware
- productive
- purposeful
- hopeful.
Why bother with mental and emotional wellbeing?
It’s in the above. If you take the time to work on your wellbeing, benefits can include being:
- better able to cope with challenges
- more confident and compassionate
- aware of who you are and what you want
- able to handle relationships and connect with others
- productive at work
- positive about your future.
In fact psychological wellbeing is now connected to better physical health. You will sleep better, and be less likely to suffer endless flus and colds. You might even live longer.
How can I know my level of psychological wellbeing?
You can take the test! Here in the UK there is a test often used by psychologists called the Warwick-Edinburgh Mental Wellbeing Scale (WEMWBS), named after the universities where researchers created it.
It asks questions such as, how optimistic do you feel about your future? How useful do you feel? And it asks about things like your energy levels and clarity of thought.
You can take the test now for free here.
What do I do if my wellbeing test score is low?
Just like we can improve our physical health with things like exercise and diet, there are tools you can use to improve your mood.
And before you say ‘it won’t work’, it’s now been shown we can train our brains to feel better. Neuroplasticity is the capacity of the brain and its neurons to reorganise and create new connections. When we repeat activities, we are more likely to create these new and more beneficial connections.
Your wellbeing toolkit
You probably already know several things that help you feel better.
But remember, it’s not just about ‘feeling good’. It’s also about feeling connected with the world, and like life has purpose.
It can help to group your wellbeing activities so that they create a healthy balance. The NHS refers to the 5 evidence-based steps of “get active, connect with others, keep learning, be aware of yourself and the world, give to others”.
But you can create your own way of grouping activities, with headings like the following:
Being active
Connecting with yourself
- mindfulness, journalling, time alone, self help, attending therapy, spiritual practices
Connecting with others
- time with friends, family events, volunteering, mentoring, being kind to strangers
Finding meaning
- meditating, yoga, praying, reading books about the world, watching documentaries, community groups, volunteering, travelling
Self care
- eating well, exercise, decluttering, setting boundaries, taking time to yourself, improving communication, limiting habits like drinking/smoking, finding support, reaching out
Joy and learning
- travel, hobbies, taking a class, learning a new skill, learning a new language, etc.
But I already do those things and still feel low?
Ask yourself the following questions:
- In the last week, how many of these activities have I actually done?
- Are they activities I actually enjoy, or what I think I should enjoy, or my friends/partner like?
- When did I last try a new wellness activity?
- Do I tend to start such activities then get distracted by work or helping others?
- Do I actually prioritise other things before my wellbeing?
Remember, neuroplasticity works with repetition. Many of us ‘think’ we participate in wellbeing, but it’s something that comes last on the list, or when we have time.
True well-being requires commitment. It means scheduling in your wellbeing activities and making them as non-negotiable as things like work deadlines.
And if my wellbeing test score is so low I’m worried?
If your wellbeing score is very low (under 32 on the WEMWBS), it’s time to seek support. If you have a trusted friend you can talk to, that is wonderful. But our friends, despite their good intentions, are often invested in our choices.
Which is where therapy comes in. A counsellor or psychotherapist creates a safe, non judgmental space for you to share what is bothering you.
You don’t have to be at rock bottom to go to therapy, that is a myth. In fact the best time to start therapy is when you realise you aren’t coping and need some help.
It might be a relationship problem, feeling stuck and unhappy in your career, or just feeling low for six weeks or more. Therapy can mean rock bottom never has to happen.
Harley Therapy connects you with highly trained and experienced psychotherapists and counselling psychologists in central London locations. In addition, the Harley Therapy Platform connects you with qualified therapists practicing throughout the UK.
Andrea M. Darcy is a mental health and wellbeing expert and personal development teacher with training in person-centred counselling and coaching, as well as a popular psychology writer. Follow her on Instagram for useful life tips @am_darcy
Hello, please could I ask a question, how does a person get that real alive feeling back? I battle to connect with things and people, it’s so hard to explain. I’m fully aware of things around me, I’m not out of my body feeling like they discribe derealisation etc. I feel emotions, I’m actually quite sensitive, and pick up the “mood” of people/ environment quickly.
But it’s like I’m not connected with the real aliveness of it. I have been in therapy for awhile now and as we have worked through things I have had (the only way to explain it) is moments/patches of real, almost as if everything comes together. Then it goes back to my normal. Like there is this gap or layer of insulation that separates me from people , bonding, connecting. I pretend like I do not feel this way, people will think I’m crazy. I noticed when things get far too intense like the other day, I was trying to keep myself under control (someone I new had tried to commit suicide) and I was driving and then it felt almost as if the scenery around me just “zoomed” out abit and I noticed that after that I was more in control of the stress.
Lately I have been under alot of stress and it’s like I am almost automated to some degree, numbish in some way. I don’t do this on purpose, it is automatic. My psychologist has spoken about dissociation, and trauma, I understand what he’s saying, but when I read up on it it’s not all the same like people describe it, I’m aware of things, I just can’t?
It’s so fustrating and makes you feel so abnormal, how do I stop doing that, I almost said I want to feel life, and in that moment I checked myself, ” do you really want to feel” so maybe it is a protective thing, but I don’t know how to come out of this disconnected place where I keep things, relationships, happiness etc at a distance. How can living be like this? It’s like you belong nowhere and pretend to everyone else, it’s very tiring and can be lonely, although I like been alone alot.
I don’t know when it began, but I only really noticed it about 3 and a half years ago, but it probably started before that. Sorry for waffling, how do I fix this. Is this a personality disorder or a response to different traumatic things over the years?
My score on your test was 25
Is this fixable?
Im a 46 years old
Yes these things are definitely fixable. You actually very much sound like you have long term PTSD. Long term PTSD does not mean you aren’t aware of things! It just means your brain is programmed, so to speak, to protect you. This can include things like feeling at a distance, numb, disconnected. And it can be more dormant at some times than others. Anxiety or upset can trigger it. For example, stress, or even a sense of midlife crisis might have triggered it. It’s great that you are seeing a psychologist. Internet research can be hit and miss, it might be better to find some proper books on the subject. As for what to do, have you tried mindfulness? It’s very effective for learning how to be in the moment with what you feel and what is happening around you. And it’s proven by research to help with depression, anxiety, stress, and PTSD. Many therapists now integrate it into their work with clients. It’s not instant, it requires a long term daily commitment, but it’s free and easy! You might find groups near you, and we have an easy to follow guide here – http://bit.ly/mindfulnessallabout.
To Whom It May Concern,
Please help me find a sense of well-being test or sense of well-being self-assessment… I am currently enrolled for Doctor of Education in Guidance and Counseling in Central Philippine University, Iloilo City, Philippines. Part of my study is the Sense of Well-being of Teachers as Basis in developing a Wellness Program for Teachers in our University. I hope you can help find a test or questionnaire where I could also ask permission from the author to use the test. Any help you can extend to me is much appreciated. Thank you and God bless.
Sincerely yours,
Myla
Hi there, we are a bit confused as the article has within it the name of the well known well being test as well as a link to where you can find it? Did you read the article?
Harley, have you clicked on the link in this article? Unfortunately the link takes you to a profile editing login page! You should proof read before publishing. PS try not to be rude to people commenting.
Of course we proof articles. We can’t control the internet, however. If a website we link to decides to remove a page, we are sadly not the God of the internet. We can’t control their choice or force the site to put the page back, and we don’t psychically know that the page is no longer then. you for letting us know, it appears the NHS no longer provides the wellbeing test. So we have found another instance of the test and replaced the link, and you can also find several more with a simple Google. All the best.
I mostly feel alone and when i try to talk to people they give me looks and before high
school, i have been bullied repeatedly i don’t feel like i fit in anywhere. My sister calls me an attention seeker but how can i be that if i don’t even talk to my siblings or my parents about anything. I am also having repetitive suicidal thoughts like i’m worthless and no one will miss me. I have tried different ways to get help but none have been useful. I just feel alone and useless right now.
Ali listen. Being young is super tough. It’s even worse if you feel unsupported by your family and bullied at school. And it can feel totally insurmountable, definitely. But then if you can just make it through to being an adult suddenly you are free to make your own choices. You can move, go to university, meet people who are totally different than the ones from your childhood. You can recreate yourself and be whoever you want. And that lies ahead for you. You just have to get through this hard bit. What were the different ways you tried to get help? Why were they not useful?